“You are my Gotham City, and your well being is my #1 priority”
is what I found myself saying last week to my aunt on her wedding day. I was what is called a lady in waiting, but that whole day I was called Batman (it sounds like I’m being silly but history is on my side guys, British officers were given a personal assistant who were referred to as a ‘batman.’ But comic book Batman sounds cooler).
Ladies in waiting, just like batmen from the British Army, are assistants. Their one and only concern is the bride, any little thing the bride needs falls on the lady in waiting. Due to the unpredictable nature of my duty, I felt that I should be adequately prepared and the only way to be truly prepared is to have a utility belt.
I had a small sewing kit, wet wipes, advil, bobby pins, mints, lint roller, hairspray, clear nail polish, and the like; most of my tools weren’t used but it was better than I was overprepared. Although I LOVED walking about with the utility belt, that wasn’t what made me really enjoy my job.
At the end of the day, I was there to keep the bride happy and stress free.
Which did require tools from the utility belt, but more importantly required the right kind of attitude. Supportive and calming attitude with very little ego. I was able to provide suggestions, zealous (and honest) reactions, and opinions. Some suggestions were shot down and some were taken, and both situations are fine because it wasn’t about my way winning but about giving the bride the best option.
Most of the time I just got to hang out with the bride. Making jokes, let her vent, keep her mind on other things when stress wanted to creep in.
This was my first time doing anything like this, naturally it was bumpy at times. I wasn’t sure if I lingered too much or got in the way of maid of honour duties. Normally when I’m met with slightly rough situations I immediately want to get out but this wasn’t one of those times. I acknowledged when I felt like I was lingering or not doing much but it didn’t affect the entire experience.
Which leads me to believe that this wasn’t just a random job that I felt I needed to do because it was given to me. Even before my aunt called a few days after the wedding to thank me for helping her I already felt a sense of warmth and fulfillment, her gratitude was a tremendous bonus. Ever since then I’ve been wondering, “What if being a bride’s batgirl is a serious profession for me?”
I don’t claim to be a wedding expert but I will research and learn more about how these events are planned; because when something brings about a sense of genuine happiness and fulfillment, I think it’s worth it to explore.
I look forward to sharing with you all the tips and tricks that I learn as I do my research!
And if you are in need of a batman for your special day, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org